'But loss is a part of God's plan for us here; without it, we would grow hard of heart and would not love those beautiful but mutable things we should love. With it, we can be moved to love, yet the loss teaches us that the final object of our love, the Selfsame, is not here. We learn to love, and we learn to give away what we love. We learn to die, and so learn to live.'
Anthony Esolen